What Dominants/Men find Attractive.
When people talk about attraction, they are not talking about lust (which is also a form of attraction). A man can be physically attracted to a sub/slave/woman, without any feelings of love, and this form of attraction is purely primal and is focused completely on the “body” of the woman involved. What they are talking about, is the attraction which is synonymous with love-based/long-term D/s relationships.
Most relationships are built on a love-based attraction, so what’s important would be know the traits in a woman, that men find most attractive, which makes them want to have something more lasting than Saturday night.
The following are some of the traits that guys find attractive in women. The list in not in any particular order of preference, and it can be assumed that the 10 factors make an impact in unison. These as not “set in stone” but after speaking with several Dominant Men, that I respect, these were the top 10.
Soft heartedness – Men are more likely to want to be with a woman who is soft, or warm, hearted, than a woman who is cold. Guys love to be mothered, not nagged but cared for, (yes even those big, bad Dominants); so they tend to fall for a woman who offers them acceptance and warmth. This would have to be the trait that men find most attractive in women.
Modesty/Lady-like – Men adore the “modest” girls, and lust after the “hot” ones. Modesty in behavior, dressing and talking is what men look for in their “long-term” partner. Though guys find “hot” women attractive, it’s mostly physical in nature and they lose interest after a few passionate encounters in the bed. There is also a common consent among men that “hot” women are less reliable, and high maintenance. In short, men love women who they can take home to their mother. SERIOUSLY! lol
Being Feminine – “Most Men” like feminine women. Feminity is all about being soft, kind hearted, understanding and caring. This attraction is justified by the fact that men are attracted to traits in a woman which they themselves lack. (It’s just our nature)
Character – Men are attracted to a woman who projects a strength of character and integrity. Men are constantly on the look out for a woman who can invoke trust through her strength of character.
The Woman’s voice – Women are naturally endowed with a beautiful voice which men find highly attractive. Some men love a strong voice in a woman, some prefer a soft tone, with a low pitch. Some women have a husky voice and many guys find that attractive too.(this would be me lol) Surveys have indicated that women subconsciously lower their voice when talking with a potential mate.
Sense Of Humor – A compatible sense of humor is another factor that can be a major plus when it comes to attraction. Sense of humor is not necessarily the ability to crack jokes but the ability to understand and laugh at one. Or to even “groan” at a bad joke, with a twinkle in our eye.
Confidence – Men get attracted towards women who make them feel comfortable and confident. A Woman who supports him emotionally and the one with whom he feels relaxed and open. A woman must be confident in herself in order to make a man feel it in themselves.
The next few are on the lust list too…lol
The Smile – A smile can easily win over a male heart. If, as a girl, you are prone to having a smiling face you are more likely to be approached by guys than when you have a smug, or frowning, face. I know it’s hard to see a smile on the internet, but a girl can project a smile through their words and “actions” on that written page.
Her Lips – Surveys have indicated that men find fuller lips on a woman more attractive as they reflect the woman’s health and fertility.
Her Eyes – Next to the smile and the lips, this is another facial feature that men get attracted to. Some men simply fall in love with the woman’s eyes. The eyes can speak a thousand words and this is very much true with it comes to attracting men.
The Woman’s Hair – Most men get attracted by moderately long hair or anything close to shoulder length as that looks more feminine. Having said that, there are a lot of men who find women with short hair attractive.
Other Physical Features – As far as physical features are concerned, men get attracted to a woman’s skin tone, height, Body Mass Index (BMI), Waist-to-Chest ratio and Waist-to-Hip ratio. But it has to be noted that attraction to these factors are purely subjective and vary widely across cultures.
So these are the ten important traits that men find attractive in women. But again, every man has his unique taste. The above points are common to most men but not for all. Look at it this way. A man may look for and get attracted to such qualities in a woman that he lacks himself. For instance, a tough guy will look for a soft female. Hope you got the idea.
Bear in mind that for every woman there is a man out there, so just relax and look out for him.