Mental vs Physical

The following is my opinion on the differences in mental and physical within the M/s, D/s, T/b relationships. These are from my own personal experiences and i am in no way saying who is right or who is wrong…simply how i feel about it.

i have been inside this lifestyle for over 10 years now, during this time i have served one Master for several years, have served a Daddy-Dom for about a year, and have several play-partners. i have also started the training of a boy-subbie in a Dominant type role.

As i walked through each of these aspects, i have found myself at different points mentally. Each causing different types of emotions and all a learning process to the person i feel i have become.

As a slave to a Master, i enjoyed more the mental to the physical. His getting in my head and basically telling me what to think, feel, say, do; what to eat, drink, and how to serve Him was more fulfilling for me than any physical aspect of the relationship. i had absolutely no control over my life and i loved it!

As a submissive baby-girl to a Daddy-Dom, i was spoiled, given anything i asked for. This was “not” the way i function. i didn’t like the feeling of having more control over Him than He did to me. i adored the Man i was with as far as an emotional connection, and physically we had a wonderful time, but mentally it was overly draining. i could never wrap my mind around why if He’s the Dom, am i able to tell Him what to do and what i want.

As a bottom to several tops, this was, for the most part, physical. The need to feel the flogger, the wax, the “beating” as one may call it. There are times that i need this physical release to keep myself sane in my everyday vanilla life. The mental parts of these were more along the lines. that it helped me regain the focus i needed everyday.

As a Dominant Female to a submissive boy, this was NOT for me at all. i could never get my head straight enough. i kept thinking to myself that it wasn’t “my place” to whip this boy, or “use” this boy for my pleasure; that’s just not how it works. So the mental of this, effected the physical. i was unable to help the boy, because i’m just not wired that way. i believe in the natural order of things, Male Dominance/female submission. i have nothing against any Female Dominants, and i have a great deal of respect for those who find themselves in that role. It’s just not for me. So i helped the boy find someone who fit him better.

i am intelligent enough to know that the mental aspects, for me, are far more superior to the physical. Don’t get me wrong, i love the physical as much as anyone else, and as i said, it sometimes gets me back to a state i need to be mentally. But i do believe that my submission is more mentally driven than physically. i believe that getting in my head instead of tying me to the nearest cross, will get a person farther with me. i know that a good mind fuck is the greatest orgasm that i can have!

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