Fisting

Everyone (well, almost everyone) knows what finger-fucking is. Whether in ass or vagina, it’s terrifically enjoyable to stroke someone inside. (Fingers up a man’s ass, if aimed properly, will tickle his prostate gland, which feels AMAZINGLY good… just a little tip!) And people are generally comfortable with the idea of finger-fucking with more than one finger. But not as many people have been exposed to the idea of inserting a whole hand into the vagina… which is, in simplest terms, what fisting is. Yes, it’s anatomically possible, and yes, it’s EXTREMELY pleasurable. (I haven’t experienced it, save vicariously.)

That said, it’s now very important to explain what fisting is not. You do not make a fist and ram it home. Fisting is one of the most intimate and complete ways to touch another human being, and it is something that has to be worked up to slowly and gently. The fantastic feeling of openness and connection, the magical plane that two people fisting can attain… it’s an incredibly intense way to make love.

Some safety issues

First of all, cut and file all your nails until every finger is as smooth as it could possibly be. Your fingers will be in some very delicate places — places that may not have pain receptors. You want to make sure you minimize all chance of causing damage.
Okay, now how do you do it?

Use LOTS (and I mean LOTS) of lube. Push it in with your fingers. Make a huge mess. Get it all over your hand, the back of your hand, between your fingers. Keep applying it as you go. You can’t have too much lube. (And remember, oil-based lubricants dissolve latex). Some people like KY jelly; others say it dries out too quickly.(Some people still use Crisco with latex gloves, on the theory that the Crisco is just the best lube, and the gloves don’t break down that fast. This is risky, but it’s an option.)

Go slowly. Start with one finger and work up. DON’T RUSH. Be sensitive to the bottom’s feelings. You are trying to persuade part of their body to open for you, to admit part of you deeply inside it. The energy will move back and forth, and you’ll ride it, coaxing and pushing, in and out, moving the bottom into a trance. Keep communicating with the bottom; gags, or role-playing where the bottom feels inferior or is told to stay quiet, may not be conducive to the kind of relaxation and open empathy you’ll probably need if this is a first time.

If the bottom suddenly hits their limit, you’ll know; their orifice will clench tight shut suddenly. DON’T PULL OUT. Stay right where you are until the contraction ends, THEN start pulling out. You can pull a muscle or two if you try to back out in the middle of a reaction like that. If this happens, it’s OK; you’ll know to go slower next time (if you both want to try again). But assuming all is well…

When you reach five fingers, you’re almost there. Now is when you want to be most sensitive and most aware. The bottom is going to be flying on pain and pleasure; a sudden flinch and you’ll find the asshole or vagina doesn’t want you anymore. Respect that, and pull out (slowly!). But if the bottom’s bottom wants it, then you’ll slip your knuckles inside, folding your thumb *inside* your fingers, and (so I’ve been told) your hand will NATURALLY form a fist — you DON’T need to clench your hand or anything else! (Note: be careful with your nails as you form a fist).

Now the real fun begins… explore, entice, pleasure the bottom, who will be in heaven… and when it comes time to pull out, do so slowly and naturally!  

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